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Anger Management – How to control your temper.
When anger rises, think of the consequences. – Confucius
Each one of us have experienced bouts of anger in our lives; this could range from a minor irritation to intense fury.
Anger is a normal human emotion. But when it gets out of control, it could cause problems. This could include problems at work or in your personal relationships or in the worst case scenario it could even affect our health causing irreparable damage. So it is essential and in our best interest that we control our anger or at best try to keep it at bay.
I would like to tell you a very short story, which I would like you to read carefully and reflect upon for a minute or so
This is a story of a father who acts wrongly in a fit of rage and regrets his actions later.
While a father was cleaning his brand new car, his son who was six years old, picked up a stone and scratched the body of the car. This car was a prized possession to the father and he really liked the car a lot. When the father saw the scratches on his car, the father went into a fit of rage and he took his son by the hand and beat him hard several times using a wrench. The injury caused was so severe that the poor boy had to be rushed to the hospital. An emergency medical procedure had to be performed on the boy, which led to the amputation of his fingers.
In the hospital, the son innocently asked the father “Dad, when will my fingers grow again?”. The father was in grief, and realized his mistake; the father returned to the car and started kicking it several times, and when sitting on the ground, looked at the scratches on his car caused by his son. The father found his son wrote * I love you, Daddy *
Friends, Love and anger have no limits………..
Just think about it, how many times in our life have we got really angry with someone who is near and dear to us and have blasted them with our anger. Could we have dealt with that situation in a different manner?. Maybe more graciously, rather than losing our temper and getting angry.
So what really causes Anger?
Anger can be caused by both external and internal events. You could be angry at a specific person for example a family member, a coworker or supervisor, or events such as a traffic jam, not getting a pay raise or promotion, or your anger could be caused by worrying about your personal problems. Memories of traumatic or enraging events can also trigger angry feelings.
What are the Negative Effects of Anger?
When you get angry, your heart rate and blood pressure goes up, as do the levels of your energy hormones, and adrenaline. The natural way to express anger is to respond aggressively.
Anger is a natural, adaptive response to threats; it inspires aggressive, feelings and behaviors, which allow us to fight and to defend ourselves when we are attacked. A certain amount of anger, therefore, is necessary for our survival. But that does not mean we can physically or verbally abuse every person who annoys us.
Expressing your angry feelings in an assertive and non aggressive manner is the best way to express anger. To do this, we have to learn how to make clear what our needs are, and how to get them met, without physically hurting others. We must be always respectful towards ourselves and others.
Anger can also be suppressed, and then converted or redirected. This happens when you hold in your anger, stop thinking about it, and focus on something positive. The aim is to suppress your anger and convert it into more constructive behavior. The danger in this type of response is that if it isn’t allowed outward expression, your anger can turn inward on yourself. Anger turned inward may cause hypertension, high blood pressure, or depression.
Unexpressed anger can create other problems such as getting back at people indirectly, without telling them why, rather than confronting them head-on. Those who do not express their anger assertively tend to constantly put others down, criticize everything, and make cynical comments. Such people generally, aren’t likely to have many successful relationships.
So what can we do to overcome anger?
A strategy towards combating a bout of anger could be to let things cool down for a while. And once you feel that your temper has cooled down you could have a talk with the person with whom you may be angry.
A situation could escalate into a very unpleasant one, when both people involved in an argument are having a raised temper, so it is always better to let matters cool down, so that your heart rate is lowered and you feel calm and composed before any further talking can be initiated.
Normally when you are angry your thoughts, words and actions can spin out of control, so when you are extremely angry try to let things cool off first.
Also trying to understand the other person’s point of view or try to view the situation as if you were in the other person’s shoes could be a good strategy in combating anger as you would get a clearer perspective.
If you still feel the other person is being unreasonable, you could calmly and assertively tell him what about him or her bothers you, and how this situation could be corrected.
Some ways of calming yourself could be:
* Yoga and Meditation, this could cool your nerves and bring you back to normal.
* Breathe deeply in and out several times focusing on your breath as you inhale and exhale.
* Drink a glass of water to help cool you down.
* Listen to some light or devotional kind of music.
* A moment of silent prayer always helps.
If you do not wish to be prone to anger, do not feed the habit; give it nothing which may tend to its increase. – Epictetus
Conclusion
So friends when you are angry, give yourself a chance to calm down before taking a decision and think carefully about the decisions you make before you take any action, this could save you from a lot of grief and you would never have to regret your actions throughout your life.
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Top 8 Healthy Foods
Top 8 Healthy Foods.
Eggs
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You can have eggs for Breakfast, lunch or dinner to get essential proteins without adding too many calories. Eggs contain nature’s purest forms of protein. The various preparations with eggs include omelets, scrambled eggs or hard boiled eggs. Eggs are packed with nutrients including essential vitamins like A, D and K.
Green Vegetables.
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Spinach, broccoli or cabbage—green vegetables are recommended to people of all ages to lower their cholesterol levels and ensure daily intake of essential nutrients. You need your daily, basic dose of antioxidants to defy aging-inducing free radicals. These are provided by vegetables.
Tomatoes
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Tomatoes are high in important antioxidants such as vitamin C and Vitamin A. These vitamins work to fend of DNA damage from free radicals. Tomatoes contain immunity boosters like lycopene. Tomatoes contain important nutrients, such as niacin, folate and vitamin B6, that have been associated with the reduction of heart disease risk.
Fresh Fruits
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Fresh fruits should be an integral part of your daily food intake. If eating raw fruits seem too demanding, try sugar-free fruit juices. Try a combination of a variety of fruits, including the apples, peaches and blackberries along with citrus fruits like oranges and pineapple. Fruits provide fiber that defines the overall efficiency of your digestive system.
Lemon.
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Lemon is a great natural source of Vitamin C. We need vitamin C for keeping our immunity sharp, skin healthy and ensuring that critical psychological functions are properly executed.
Low Fat or Skimmed Milk
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Milk is one of the best sources of natural calcium, which is essential for healthy bones. Milk is a great way to de-stress at the end of the day. A glass of warm milk will help to relax tense muscles and soothe frayed nerves and induce good sleep.
Yogurt & Cottage Cheese
Yogurt and cottage cheese are your safest sources of protein along with providing essential nutrients like zinc, riboflavin, potassium, vitamin B12, iodine, phosphorus and trace elements like molybdenum. Yogurt is the one of the best probiotics that should be consumed on a daily basis. You could introduce cottage cheese in your diet if you do not consume non-vegetarian food to ensure you get your daily dose of calcium and protein.
Oatmeal
Oatmeal is a low calorie food and stops food cravings. It provides high levels of fiber and protein and low levels of fat. Stabilizes blood sugar and reduces risk of type 2 diabetes. Oatmeal removes your bad cholesterol without affecting your good cholesterol.
Top 10 Money Saving Tips to save you a ton of cash !!
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1. Print a grocery list and stick to it.
2. At the grocery store look down. Items below eye level are often cheaper.
3. Try the store brands. Generic itemes are similar if not better than Brand names, and you’re paying for all the advertising they do to have a brand name.
4. Ask for a discount on big ticket items like a refrigerator or washing machine.
5. If you don’t have health insurance, you must seriously consider getting it now! If you are uninsured, health care is more expensive.
6. Buy Compact fluorescent bulbs. Compact fluorescent bulbs use about 75% less electricity than incandescent.
7. Clear your credit card debt. One of the golden rules of financial planning is to clear your most expensive debts first, in other words your credit card debt. Credit card interest rates are normally high, so if not cleared it could cost you a lot of money repaying the interest and fines.
8. Pay your bills on time and avoid late fees.
9. Do regular scheduled maintenance on your vehicles. Do not cut down on or forget to do regular oil changes. Remember to check the air in your tires often. And follow the maintenance schedule mentioned in the owner’s manual of your car. These small steps taken by you, can significantly lengthen the life of your car, giving you years of use, and also save you a ton of money on major maintenance or breakdown issues.
10. Make saving a game. Set goals and give yourself a reward if you reach them.
Rest and Relax
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A professor was giving a lecture to his student on stress management. He raised a glass of water and asked the audience, “How heavy do you think this glass of water is?”
The answer ranged from 20gm to 500gm.
“It doesn’t matter on the absolute weight. It depends on how long you hold it. If I hold it for a minute, it is ok. If I hold it for an hour, I will have an ache in my right arm. If I hold it for a day, you will have to call an ambulance. It is the exact same weight, but the longer I hold it, the heavier it becomes.”
“If we carry our burdens all the time, sooner or later, we will not be able to carry on, the burden becoming increasingly heavier. What you have to do is put the glass down, rest for a while before holding it up again.”
We have to put down the burden periodically, so that we can be refreshed and are able to carry on. When you return home from work, put the burden of work down. Don’t carry it into your home. You can pick it up tomorrow.
Rest & Relax….
Let’s think, learn & share. It is a meaningful journey
The Star Thrower Story
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There’s a story I would like to share with you. It was inspired by the writing of Loren Eiseley. Eiseley was a very special person because he combined the best of two cultures. He was a scientist and a poet. And from those two perspectives he wrote insightfully and beautifully about the world and our role in it.
Once upon a time, there was a wise man, much like Eiseley himself, who used to go to the ocean to do his writing. He had a habit of walking on the beach before he began his work. One day he was walking along the shore. As he looked down the beach, he saw a human figure moving like a dancer. He smiled to himself to think of someone who would dance to the day. So he began to walk faster to catch up. As he got closer, he saw that it was a young man and the young man wasn’t dancing, but instead he was reaching down to the shore, picking up something and very gently throwing it into the ocean.
As he got closer, he called out, “Good morning! What are you doing?” The young man paused, looked up and replied “Throwing starfish into the ocean.”
“I guess I should have asked, Why are you throwing starfish into the ocean?”
“The sun is up and the tide is going out. And if I don’t throw them in they’ll die.”
“But young man, don’t you realize that there are miles and miles of beach and starfish all along it. You can’t possibly make a difference!”
The young man listened politely. Then bent down, picked up another starfish and threw it into the sea, past the breaking waves. “It made a difference for that one!”
His response surprised the man. He was upset. He didn’t know how to reply. So instead, he turned away and walked back to the cottage to begin his writings.
All day long as he wrote, the image of the young man haunted him. He tried to ignore it, but the vision persisted. Finally, late in the afternoon he realized that he the scientist, he the poet, had missed out on the essential nature of the young man’s actions. Because he realized that what the young man was doing was choosing not to be an observer in the universe and make a difference. He was embarrassed.
That night he went to bed troubled. When the morning came he awoke knowing that he had to do something. So he got up, put on his clothes, went to the beach and found the young man. And with him he spent the rest of the morning throwing starfish into the ocean. You see, what that young man’s actions represent is something that is special in each and everyone of us. We have all been gifted with the ability to make a difference. And if we can, like that young man, become aware of that gift, we gain through the strength of our vision the power to shape the future.
And that is your challenge. And that is my challenge. We must each find our starfish. And if we throw our stars wisely and well, I have no question that the 21st century is going to be a wonderful place.
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